It may seem like the last thing that you’d want to do, but talking to your boss and your co-workers about your divorce can actually help you to get through it and at the very least it might make some things easier to manage.
I’m not saying that you should publically announce your divorce to the world, but talking it through and getting support from people at work can help to take a weight off your shoulders.
If you’re already shying away from the idea, don’t worry, it’s completely understandable. A breakup is hard enough to go through as it is, without the thought of people at work analysing your relationship.
What you need to remember, is that at least one other person at your workplace will have gone through this themselves or will know someone who has and your employer can take this information on board to help you though this difficult time in your life.
Divorce is a rocky road of emotions and is categorised as being similar to grief; after all, you have lost someone you were very close too and that loss can produce all the same symptoms of grief that occur when a loved one passes away. You’ll probably find yourself in various phases of grief including; anger, resentment (at both your ex and yourself), shock, disbelief and failure.
Whilst at times you may feel as though you need to go through all of this alone, you really don’t and you might be surprised by how relieved you feel after confiding in someone at work, after all, it’s where you spend a great deal of your time and feeling comfortable at work will help you to succeed in that area of your life.
If you inform your boss of your current situation, they can help by providing things like; leave (so that you have some time to recover before returning to work) and flexible working to help with court dates and solicitor appointments.
If you’re self-employed and run your own business, you may want to confide in a manager or assistant who can help to relieve some of your stress by handling more of your responsibilities at work which will allow you some time to get settle back into your role without too much pressure from staff and clients.
The worst thing that you can do is to bottle your emotions up completely. Hiding your emotions can lead to depression which can also lead to poor work performance and strain on professional relationships. If your boss and co-workers don’t understand the reasons behind your change in emotions and work performance you could risk losing your job, which will only worsen your situation.
Remember to seek help and confide in others. You aren’t the first person to go through this and you won’t be the last.
Take the process in your stride, it is all part of your Believe and Live Again recovery, bounce back and transition journey from being a “we” to becoming a “me”.
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