This Valentine’s Day, in addition to a quick video I recorded especially for you, I want to teach all of us lovely ladies who have suffered bad relationships, break-ups or divorce to F.L.Y!
“F.L.Y – First Love Yourself, Others Will Come Next”
The truth to any lasting happiness is to love yourself, and what better day to begin your journey than the day of love?
It’s impossible to move on from a previous relationship if you don’t love yourself. In order to let down the barrier that you’ve put up towards others you need to rediscover who you are and show yourself how much you’re appreciated.
Valentine’s Day can seem like one of the most daunting days of the year if you’re divorced or if you’ve experienced a relationship breakdown. Everywhere you go there are signs and declarations of love be it television advertisements, shop window displays, even the names of the coffees can change at your local café to celebrate the special day.
You’ll see couples out dining together, buying special gifts together and most of your friends will be planning something special for their significant other….but where does that leave you? Feeling blue, miserable and reaching for the nearest tub of full-fat ice cream!
I’m here to help you learn to accept Valentine’s Day by turning it into a positive, self-loving experience. In fact, if you follow my advice, you’ll come out of Valentine’s Day stronger, happier and with new hope for future relationships.
♥ Write a Love Letter to Yourself
A couple of years ago, Huffington Post asked their readers to write a letter of appreciation to themselves and to give examples of what they would say. You can read more about this here.
The readers wrote things like:
♥ "Don't make the same mistake twice. That breakup was a lucky escape."
♥ "Valentine's Day is only one day of the year. Focus on loving yourself today. Love will happen again."
My advice is to write yourself a love letter of appreciation this Valentine’s Day. Tell yourself what qualities you’re proud of, what value you see in yourself and all the great things you’ve done. Write it and save it. Bring it out every time you feel sad or alone and remind yourself of how great you really are.
♥ Make a Date with a Friend
If you have a friend who’s particularly supportive or who has been through a divorce or relationship breakup themselves, give them a call or better yet, get together. Arrange a pampering session, a girly night in/out and have fun!
♥ Speak to a Professional
If you’re feeling particularly depressed or anxious about your situation or your life in general, the best course of action would be to speak to a professional counsellor. Someone who can help you to re-discover yourself and let go of the past.
♥ Remember Your Faith
Whether you ended the relationship or not, it’s normal for you to experience both grief and guilt. Re-discovering your faith will help you to gain the tools necessary for you to cope with your divorce and get a better grasp on the bigger picture that life has in store for you. Remember that God is LOVE and you my sister are the apple of His eye, whether you believe in Him or not.
♥ Don’t Contact Your Ex
It’s normal to feel alone on Valentine’s Day and sometimes, this can lead you to feel like it’s a good idea to get in touch with your ex, especially if you were in a long-term relationship. You might crave the company of a familiar person, but whatever you do, don’t pick up the phone. Your ex won’t help. They won’t help to relieve your guilt, or regain your happiness. At the end of the day, it will only end up causing pain or trouble for you both.
♥ Don’t Rush
Do not rush into a new relationship ‘just because everyone else is together’. Starting a new relationship when you’re not ready and when you haven’t yet learned how to love yourself won’t end well and you’ll end up repeating past mistakes. As the lyrics of that wonderful Whitney Houston song says, “Learning to Love Yourself Is the Greatest Love Of All”
The most important thing to remember this Valentine’s Day is to love yourself, not just this one day each year but every single day. Show yourself how much you care, how much you value who you are and above all have fun! Yes “F.L.Y – First Love Yourself, Others Will Come Next”
Whatever you do, take the process in your stride, it is all part of your Believe and Live Again recovery, bounce back and transition journey from being a “we” to becoming a “me”.
If you would like to have an informal chat about it, don't hesitate to get in touch on: +44 208 938 3672 and myself or a member of my team will gladly schedule a Complimentary Believe and Live Again Coaching Discovery session or a no-obligation 30 minute "Forgive and Let Go" consultation and together, we could be embarking upon the Believe and Live Again 5 R's journey to heal your heart, outgrow your challenges and let go of the past so that your glorious future can finally emerge.
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In the meantime, until next time, Keep Smiling, Keep Strong and Keep Believing.
Best Wishes and God's Blessings