Last week I taught you how to celebrate Mother’s Day after your divorce. Today, I want to extend upon that lesson by showing you how to celebrate your life each and every day.
Now is the time to realise that your happiness does not depend upon another person. It is possible to be happy in your own independence and the freedom that you give yourself will open up more opportunities than you ever thought possible.
Travelling is the best way to forge your new place in the world. Your new life awaits and through travel you can see everything that the world has to offer; new cultures, new people, new foods, new experiences.
If you’re afraid to jump in at the deep end you can start small. Go shopping, book a spa day, head to the salon, go to the cinema or grab a bite to eat. Just because you’re alone doesn’t mean you’re alone. If you do things or try new experiences that you enjoy, your happiness will rub off on others and will present you with opportunities to meet new people who share your interests.
You can find a fantastic guide to dining alone in London and Paris at Liquid Marmalade.
“Mindfulness is the big thing…and solo dining is the ultimate mindfulness action. You aren’t talking to anyone and all your concentration is firmly on the food and how you are feeling in the now.”- Ros (http://liquidmarmalade.com/)
Travelling is all about the unknown, just like divorce. You find yourself in a completely new, unfamiliar place and you have to adapt to your new situation. This similarity is exactly why travelling is such a popular choice after divorce as it helps you to re-discover who you are whilst you discover the world around you.
Here are my top tips for first time travellers going it alone:
- Embrace the Unknown (but don’t make yourself feel anxious): Pick a place at random, somewhere you've always wanted to go to but you don’t have too much knowledge of. Remember that if you know a destination completely it will remove a lot of the fun of discovering it. However, to put yourself at ease you can find out some basic things. If you’re a first time traveller we recommend that you choose a destination that has a lot of things that you think you’ll like for example; great beaches, wildlife parks and bistros.
- Consider Language: If you don’t speak any other languages besides English, you really need to consider the native language of your destination. You don’t want to be stranded in a country where no one understands a word you say.
- Travel Light: You’ll want to collect souvenirs from your travels and you can’t do that if you arrive at your destination with a full suitcase. Remember the three essentials; passport, travel documents (flight tickets etc.) and travel money. After that just pack underwear and a change of clothes and you’ll be good to go!
- Plan Ahead: Plan your journey in advance. This will help to save money by booking cheaper flights and don’t be afraid to try hostels instead of hotels. They’re much cheaper and you’ll be out for most of the day anyway.
- Take it steady: Don’t feel as though you have to cram everything into one day or week. If your schedule is too full you’ll burnout quickly and it will ruin your whole trip.
- Stay Safe: I didn't leave this point until last because it was the least important, I left it until last so that you remember it!
- Stay away from bum bags – they are far too easy to steal.
- Forget traveller’s cheques and cash. Your debit card will allow you to withdraw as much cash as you need as and when you need it.
- Your budget won’t work out the way you plan – you’ll always go over your budget and so make sure you have someone who can send you some money if you really need it.
- Meet the locals – spend a few moments to chat with other travellers and people you meet whilst you travel. Not only will you build new relationships and learn more about travelling, you’ll also make useful contacts if you need help or directions.
- Pack essentials – I’ve already mentioned travelling light with just a few outfits but you may also want to bring things like; a torch, maps, a book/music (for long journeys) and a clock/watch.
- Have an emergency contact – Make sure someone knows where you are travelling at all times. This includes the hotel/hostel you are staying at and a contact number where they can reach you. You should also keep some medical and emergency contact information on you at all times in case you are taken ill.
Above all else enjoy travelling, take pleasure in seeing new places, immerse yourself in new cultures and have fun!
Whatever you do, take the process in your stride, it is all part of your Believe and Live Again recovery, bounce back and transition journey from being a “we” to becoming a “me”.
If you would like to have an informal chat about it, don't hesitate to get in touch on: +44 208 938 3672 and myself or a member of my team will gladly schedule a Complimentary Believe and Live Again Coaching Discovery session or a no-obligation 30 minute "Forgive and Let Go" consultation and together, we could be embarking upon the Believe and Live Again 5 R's journey to heal your heart, outgrow your challenges and let go of the past so that your glorious future can finally emerge.
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In the meantime, until next time, Keep Smiling, Keep Strong and Keep Believing.
Best Wishes and God's Blessings