I trust you had a wonderful weekend and pampering Mother’s day, especially the mums amongst us and those that have had to assume motherhood nurturing responsibility in the USA, parts of Europe and other parts of the world.
Here in the UK we celebrated Mother’s day way back in March but many of us joined in the celebrations, sharing love and best wishes with our cousins Stateside and our allies in Europe as well as receiving a double portion of love and best wishes in return. If the truth be told you can never be over celebrated as a mum <3, it is really nice to feel appreciated for all the sacrificial loving work we do to raise and nurture our children. Yesterday, marked the end of Mental Health Awareness week - 8th -14th May 2017, and I couldn’t but help reflect and shed a tear for mothers, step mothers and people fulfilling the mother role all over the world that have had their kids taken away into care on account of alleged or even actual mental health issues. The interest of the child must always come first as it is of paramount importance however, I can only imagine how a mother would feel if through no fault of her own, she has lost the children due to ill mental health. Somehow, to many women “Happy Mother’s Day” might have been too difficult to accept or fathom.
As many of you may be aware, especially the Coaches amongst us, this week is International Coaching Week (ICW) sponsored by the International Coaching Federation (ICF), celebrating all that is good in the Coaching Industry.
During this week, coaches like me, all around the world are offering a variety of activities and pro-bono services in our local communities and sphere of influence to share coaching’s impact. From educational sessions to coaching demonstrations to panel discussions, The ICW offers something for everyone. Originally started in 1999 by ICF member Jerri N. Udelson, MCC, The ICW educates the public about the value of working with a professional coach and acknowledges the results and progress made through the coaching process.
The Benefits of hiring a coach are huge and include being helped to:
- Uncover from within fresh perspectives on personal life challenges
- Gain laser sharp clarity for their next steps
- Make better choices
- Uncover and dispel limiting beliefs
- Reframe those limiting beliefs into limitless beliefs so as to enjoy better relationships and success in life
- Be intentional in personal goal setting and be totally accountable for attainment
- Increase productivity, time management and fulfilment in both personal and career aspirations
- Experience greater self confidence, self nurture, mindfulness and heightened self esteem
- Create an environment where the individual or group are able to dig within and rediscover happiness and joy
- Take back control and be the leader in their own lives
Zina, so how does the coach do achieve this? I could answer this question in so many ways, however I like how the International Coaching Federation has so succinctly without any ambiguity described the role of the coach and the role of the client in the coach/client relationship. I have reproduced it below:
- Provides objective assessment and observations that foster the individual's or team’s self-awareness and awareness of others
- Listens closely to fully understand the individual's or team's circumstances
- Acts as a sounding board in exploring possibilities and implementing thoughtful planning and decision making
- Champions opportunities and potential, encouraging stretch and challenge commensurate with personal strengths and aspirations
- Fosters shifts in thinking that reveal fresh perspectives
- Challenges blind spots to illuminate new possibilities and support the creation of alternative scenarios
- Maintains professional boundaries in the coaching relationship, including confidentiality, and adheres to the coaching professional code of ethics
- Creates the coaching agenda based on personally meaningful coaching goals
- Uses assessment and observations to enhance self-awareness and awareness of others
- Envisions personal and/or organizational success
- Assumes full responsibility for personal decisions and actions
- Utilizes the coaching process to promote possibility thinking and fresh perspectives
- Takes courageous action in alignment with personal goals and aspirations
- Engages big-picture thinking and problem-solving skills
- Takes the tools, concepts, models and principles provided by the coach and engages in effective forward actions
Divorce and Breakup Recovery
There are numerous niches and coaches all over the world offer services to cover these special areas.
I started off as a generalist – Life Coach before becoming a successful certified Personal Performance Coach, Career Coach and as well as an Executive Coach – I realised as you do that you really can’t be all things to all men. What did I do? As part of my personal continuous improvement and lifelong learning commitment, I decided to go back and train as a Certified Divorce Recovery and Reinvention Coach and set up another coaching practise for female professionals, women of faith, business women and entrepreneurs who have been affected by divorce, separation, domestic abuse and/or a break-up who are looking to move on smoothly and swiftly from the grief and stigma with boldness, a realistic reinvention roadmap, renewed confidence, more clarity for their new reality so that they are empowered to believe, laugh and live again. It is so fulfilling being able to help to transform the lives of so many women across the globe and across time zones. It is a huge responsibility which I do not take lightly and am incredibly grateful not only to be an expert in this field but to be a channel of emotional healing where new lives are rediscovered.
For many, seeking the advice of a Divorce and Breakup Recovery and Reinvention Coach might be the best thing that comes out of your divorce or breakup. Divorce and Break up Recovery and Reinvention Coaching isn’t a service for the ‘weak’, as many might assume, it’s for the strong, and for those who want to change for the better. It’s a service for women who want to show the world how great they really are by shedding the painful memories of the past and forging a new, positive and meaningful future.
An experienced coach can support you by encouraging you to create and reach new personal goals using vision boards and other tools to help you to see a new future, beyond the one that you had pre-divorce or pre-breakup and by encouraging you to follow your passions, beliefs and your vision to re-invent a better version of yourself, one that will positively affect your own life and the lives of those you love the most.
What Does a Divorce/Breakup Recovery and Reinvention Coach Actually Do? Drum rolllll! - You will have to wait till Wednesday, where in my next blog I will unpack what a Divorce/Breakup Recovery and Reinvention Coach actually does.
Make sure you look for this blog as I will also be offering some cool free “giveaways” as part of the International Coaching Week and my way of demonstrating how coaching can help you.
Whatever you do, take the process in your stride, it is all part of your Believe and Live Again recovery, bounce back and transition journey from being a “we” to becoming a “me”.
If you would like to have an informal chat about it, don't hesitate to get in touch on: +44 208 938 3672 and myself or a member of my team will gladly schedule a Complimentary Believe and Live Again Discovery session or a 30 minute "Forgive and Let Go" consultation and together, we could be embarking upon the Believe and Live Again 5 R's journey to heal your heart, outgrow your challenges and let go of the past so that your glorious future can finally emerge.
Once again, I invite you to contact me or schedule a time to talk, call: +44 (0) 208 938 3672 (24 hours) or click on the pink "Contact" at the bottom right hand side of this page and this will take you into my "Let's Talk" contact form. Kindly complete the form and you will get a call back.
In the meantime, until next time, Keep Smiling, Keep Strong and Keep Believing.
Best Wishes and God's Blessings
Zina Arinze helps female professionals, business women, entrepreneurs and women of faith, swiftly recover from the grief, trauma and stigma of divorce, separation or relationship breakdown by giving them clarity for their radiant future so that they are able to transition their mindsets from “we” to “me”, reconnect to their positive of self, regain their feminine power and walk in the healing restorative power of God. A lawyer by training and armed with an MBA, Zina has over 15 years in IT Project Management Consultancy, Training and Capacity Building for both the Public and Private Sectors, she very passionate about building lasting relationships and encouraging the discovery, development and deployment of hidden talents.