It’s often said that a little stress is good for you. It gets the heart pumping, drives adrenaline around your system and helps you to achieve more in a day.
Prolonged stress however, such as that associated with going through a divorce, can be all too much for a person to handle; which is why a little relaxation is in order.
Doctors can be all too eager to hand out anti-depressant medication and to diagnose you with an illness when truthfully you’re going through a difficult time in your life and you need some help to get through it.
This article will show you how to travel through the 5 R’s of relaxation; release, reflect, renew, reinvigorate and reinvent.
Relaxation comes in many forms and is unique to every individual. For you it could be reading a book in front of the fire, heading out for a spa retreat or shopping with your best friend.
The first step to true relaxation is to release the stresses and pains that are holding you back. Yes, this will involve some crying and despair in order to process the feelings of grief and loss that you’re experiencing. It may sound impossible and too painful but I promise you, it is worth it to begin your journey to self-discovery.
Try to reflect upon what you’ve learned, how you’ve grown and overcome challenges. Things will get better, but you first need to be able to draw the positives from a bad situation.
Once you’ve done this you’ll be able to renew your outlook on life with your new found ability to see the good and not just the bad in both life and people.
Reinvigorating yourself comes from drawing strength from your past troubles and learning from them. You need to start loving and appreciating yourself again. Spend some time reading a favourite book or watching a favourite film. Perhaps you enjoy cooking, baking or eating out with friends. Anything to take your mind away from negative thoughts and to provide you with some quality ‘me’ time is a great idea.
Finally, you need to reinvent yourself. A divorce is one of the hardest things to go through in life and it’s easy to lose yourself along the way or through a bad marriage. Now it’s time to reinvent yourself by rediscovering who you are and what you like.
Treat yourself to a makeover, spend some time on a hobby or self-project that you’ve long neglected and slowly you’ll remember who you are.
Intentionally designating ‘me’ time is a great way to rediscover who you are. ‘Me’ time doesn’t just mean time alone either, it’s also good to spend time with other like-minded individuals who share your experiences or interests. You could consider a weekend retreat or a cruise. Retreats in particular are a phenomenal way of helping you to relax.
You have the time and freedom to just stop – there’s no need to do anything, just take the time to process your grief and loss and work through it alone or with the support of others.
- You can physically rest allowing you to recharge your batteries and your emotions.
- A designated divorce focused retreat can help you on the path to healing.
If you can’t afford to go on a retreat, instead you could try a home retreat. Book some ‘holiday’ days for yourself, ideally a week. Get someone to take care of your children (if necessary), stock up on your favourite foods, fill the house with your favourite scents and relax.
You can also experiment with meditation and yoga to help relieve the tension in your mind and body, whilst writing your feelings down in a journal can help you to process them.
No matter how busy you are, you should always find some time each day for yourself, to relax and recuperate. Never lose track of who you are – a strong, independent and confident woman.
If you would like to have an informal chat about it, don't hesitate to get in touch on: +44 208 938 3672 and myself or a member of my team will gladly schedule a Complimentary Believe and Live Again Coaching Discovery session or a no-obligation 30 minute "Forgive and Let Go" consultation and together, we could be embarking upon the Believe and Live Again 5 R's journey to heal your heart, outgrow your challenges and let go of the past so that your glorious future can finally emerge.
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